I learned how to reinvent myself early in life. When we moved from New Orleans to her drier, Baptist, more genteel sister city Mobile , I was shocked to see girls in high school wearing pony tails!
And the southern y’all was drawled out much more than my N’Awlins’ yaw’ll pronunciation.
I saw how different I was – not a good thing in ninth grade – and adapted. By the end of high school I was slimmer and had grown out my boy cut. I have a drawer full of grosgrain ribbons I saved for my own daughters, who turned out to be sons. Fingers are crossed for granddaughters in the far – very far – future.
But adapting and reinventing myself didn’t bring automatic acceptance. I was always “Pam – y’know, that girl from New Orleans…?” no matter how much drawl I put into my y’all.
After several attempts throughout my life to fit in – pseudo-preppie in college (I really was too artsy for that), glamorous working wife morphing into business owner raising two babies (is the Enjoli jingle in your head now?), harried working grad school student – I’ve come to a place post 50 where I’m able to discern the difference between adapting myself to be something I’m NOT…
versus reinventing myself to be WHO I TRULY AM.
Instead of trying to be something I’m not, or taking the word “REinvention” to mean transforming into something so new as to be unrecognizable, my meaning of reinvention is to enhance what makes me… ME. (And you…YOU.) Find your passion… make your work your play… make your comeback… start living your life the way you wanted to live it in the first place… BE YOURSELF!
Of course this comes hand in hand with fear. Because… What if my friends all up and leave me? What if I don’t make new friends? WHAT IF NO ONE LIKES THIS NEW, REAL, REINVENTED ME?
In My Case funnily enough, new friends – face to face and online friends whom I’ve yet to meet - all ‘get’ me. Reinvented Me is more ME than those ‘Me’s ‘ I tried to invent myself into being just to … fit in.
I don’t have to “fit” anymore.
I hope you give your own Reinvention a whirl.
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